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Brian Lenney's avatar

The section on helicopter parenting really jumped out at me.

That tracks with everything else in this research about kids needing independence and outdoor play. But here's what I don't get. If helicopter parenting is part of the problem, why are these same overprotective parents now demanding that Apple and the government helicopter-parent everyone's internet usage?

Think about it.

The research shows that kids who can't handle age-appropriate risks become more anxious adults. So what's the solution according to these parents? Create a massive surveillance system where no adult can use social media without government ID verification because they can't handle the "risk" of telling their 12-year-old no.

The studies you cited prove that giving kids more physical freedom and fewer playground rules made them "happier, more socially engaged, and possibly more resilient to bullying." So why aren't we just taking away the phones and sending them to those playgrounds?

Instead we get this backwards logic where my privacy rights have to be violated because some parents literally cannot do the thing your research says works: set boundaries and let kids handle disappointment.

It's the same helicopter mentality, just scaled up to ruin everyone's digital freedom.

They can't parent their own kid, so now the entire internet needs training wheels.

Just take the phone away.

The science literally proves this works better than any app store filter ever will.

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Steve Lawrence's avatar

Sports like soccer are popular, not "free play" but probably good. But I've noticed a big difference is that today parents and friends abound at matches. I'm not sure this is good. Kids may feel pressure, become anxious. When I was a kid parents were absent; perhaps a blessing?

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