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No. What parents and grownups need to do is stop violently and emotionally abusing their daughters and address their own massive, skyrocketing grownup personal crises of depression, addiction, and violence that are depressing girls. The 2021 and 2023 Centers for Disease Control surveys of 27,000 teenagers, as well as numerous long-term studies and analyses, decisively demolish the notion that social media is driving girls’ mental health crisis. Social media is just the latest culture-war distraction – popular, one politicians love to embrace to pretend they care about youth. But the case for social media destroying or rewiring teens is over.

The CDC’s latest surveys show that 43% of teenage girls who are violently and/or emotionally abused by parents and household grownups frequently use social media, compared to just 34% of girls who are not abused. Abused and depressed girls use social media more for contacts and help, which is why it superficially appears social media causes girls’ depression. In fact, the culprit is abuse. Girls are much more likely to be abused by parents and household adults than boys are, CDC surveys show, which is why girls understandably are more depressed.

Readers of this substack have to ask: why is the overwhelming issue of parents’ and adults’ abuses and severe troubles in teens’ (particularly girls’) poor mental health so completely ignored and even denied on here? The CDC’s own analysis associates parental abuses and troubles with two-thirds of teens’ depression and 90% of teen suicide attempts, while social media is a trivial issue. Of course, social media presents unhealthy topics, but these are buffered and far easier to deal with by <delete> and <block-sender> buttons than menacing real-life issues like mom’s violent boyfriend or a sexually abusive coach.

Enough. If adults on here can’t deal with the realities teenagers deal with – 76% grow up in homes with parents who are abusive and/or severely troubled; one-fifth with parents who suffer multiple problems; four-fifths of cyberbullied teens are also bullied much more at home by adults; a middle-school girl is 20 times more likely to suffer the depressing reality of a suicidal, drug-overdosing father or stepfather than the other way around; on and on – then you’re just jeopardizing teens’ safety by distracting from real hazards just as Australian officials did. I'll be glad to supply links to the many solid sources for these statements.

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JM's avatar

I really appreciate this substack and all the guest articles, but the recommendation/four new norms grow more absurd by the day. Handing a 13-14 year old a smartphone and letting a 16 year old sign up for Instagram, at the most impressionable time of their lives, is definitely not going to fix anything. I’m aware of the rationale for not going further, but I don’t buy it. Why not push for the norm to be no smartphones or social media apps during childhood, period? That is a recommendation that might actually help kids. Anything less seems disingenuous.

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